Reasons for God's Design in Marriage

9 Reasons for God’s Design of Marriage: Marriage represents God’s design for order and priority in life

God’s design is perfect. Do you believe that? I do. I don’t believe in a God who is imperfect. His design for things is perfect. You read in my last post, “God is a God of order.” God designed things to be in order. God gave priority to specific things. Read further to learn why.

Why is order important

The definition of order is:

The arrangement or disposition of people or things in relation to each other according to a particular sequence, pattern, or method.

Order gives an arrangement that has a sequence or pattern in how things are related. We all know this. It would be hard for us to do research without order. Knowing much of anything would be difficult if we did not have order. Essentially, things just wouldn’t make since. So, order is important because it helps us to organize and understand things better.

A God without order would mean that either God did not create our world or our world should be in total chaos. It would be impossible for any human to live in this world if total chaos was the norm.

Our world does exist, and God exists. So God must be a God of order.

What is priority?

The definition of priority is:

The fact or condition of being regarded or treated as more important.

Does God regard some things more important than others? Order and organization requires prioritization in most cases. I believe God does regard some things more important than others.

Let’s take a simple case: Is Satan regarded more important than you?

I think we know Satan is not more important to you. That’s a pretty stark contrast! You are more important to God than the destroyer.  Otherwise, Jesus would not have been sent as a Savior.

God gives priority to things to help with organization and order. He knows order is important to be able to manage power and control. He gave order and priority in marriage, and created it that way for a purpose. Let’s explore this.

Why did God put priority and order in marriage?

One example of where God showed order and priority in marriage was when he created Adam before Eve. He also says in Ephesians 5:23 “The husband is the head over the wife.” He also made the “parental unit” through creating marriage. The parental unit is over the child unit. Do you see the order now? Are there other examples of order you can name in your life?

Why is this order important? Order in families provides safety, order and control. Without a leader in the marital unit, couples get into fights and roadblocks. A couple sometimes can get stuck, but with a defined leader they can move forward if they can’t compromise. Parents have to be in control of their children through order to help provide a safe place for children to mature and learn.

The Bible says, “For God is not a God of disorder but of peace.” 1 Corinthians 14:33 This is only one example of a literal Biblical reference to God being a God of order.

Importance of God’s design for order and priority in marriage

God designed marriage to have order and priority to give a plan for how to survive and thrive in this world. His design is not to be thrown away like it is worthless. There is purpose. His purpose is loving. If he didn’t create marriage with order and priority life would be more chaotic and not livable. Maturity would be hard to attain. Success would be nonexistent.

Look at all the chaos we have now. What do you think is going on? Go look at statistics of single family households and how well children do in school. It’s a stark difference. Children in two parent homes are way more successful and have a lot less problems than those who don’t. God’s design is perfect. He created life this way in every aspect. If we just follow it, it would be hard to fail.


Yes, we are fallible. God is not. His design is perfect, and for us to question his design would be haughty, prideful, and very foolish. Marriage was created to have order and priority because that is who God is. It works! Designed in this way, God provides benefits: safety, productivity and success. Continue to learn more about God’s design and let your knowledge help you find success in all aspects of life, especially marriage.

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