Reasons for God's Design in Marriage

9 Reasons for God’s Design of Marriage: Worshiping God through Relationship

Do you watch the news all the time? Are you on your phone all day? Do you ignore your kids or spouse because something else is more important?

If you were a fly on the wall in many couples’ houses today you would probably see all 3 of these things going on. Would you want to be married if you saw just these things? NOT ME!!

The message: Marriage must not be all that people think it is cracked up to be!

Add in there: Watching porn, infidelity, parenting issues, arguments, and external family concerns. That fly is probably thinking, “I’m getting out of here! There is too much tension in this place. These people never have peace.”

Or the fly, being a fly, might like the stink and filth that they see and just come to pester the couple…

What’s the Point?

So why do people do this? Why do people get married? That’s a good question, yet, that’s for another post. My main question is:

If you are married, what keeps you from showing people the best of marriage?

That’s what I want to focus on today!

What does the best of marriage look like?

I believe it looks like worshiping God through how you relate to each other in your marriage. Let’s explore more and maybe we will come to a deeper understanding of what a healthy marriage looks like.


Let’s define worship:

  • the feeling or expression of reverence and adoration for a deity (google)
  • show reverence and adoration for (a deity); honor with religious rites (google)
  • to honor or show reverence for as a divine being or supernatural power (Merriam-Webster)
  • to honor or show reverence for as a divine being or supernatural power (Merriam-Webster)
  • a form of religious practice with its creed and ritual (Merriam-Webster)

Let’s define marriage:

  • the state of being united as spouses in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law (Merriam-Webster)
  • the mutual relation of married persons (Merriam-Webster)
  • an intimate or close union (Merriam-Webster)
  • the institution whereby individuals are joined in a marriage (Merriam-Webster)
  • the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship (Google)

I define these two terms to help provide background to my point.

How Does One Worship God?

Some of the ways we worship God are:

  • dancing
  • praising
  • singing
  • honoring
  • praying (talking)
  • giving
  • serving
  • sacrificing.

However, worshipping God can be anything that is pure and gives God praise and honor. Take dancing. David in the Bible danced to worship God. Nowadays we have interpretative dance and other types of dancing that people do during worship times at church. Have you ever just listened to a worship song and felt the desire to get up, jump or move around in a graceful (or not so graceful) way?

How about serving? Serving is another diverse way to worship. We can serve just about anywhere as long as it is a pure ways of praising and honoring God. It’s the position of one’s way they are serving that makes it worship. If you are worshiping God while serving, your mind is blessing him and you are aware that the service you are doing is important to God.

How many other ways can you think of that can be considered worship?

How Can Marriage Be Worship?

If we can start to see worship in more diverse ways where the heart of a person is bent on honoring the Lord, then it will be easier to demonstrate how marriage can be full of worship.

In the Bible, Ephesians 5 talks about the roles of a husband and a wife. As you read the verses, you start to see how they are intertwined and depend on one another. However, both have their part, and if they don’t do their role well, it could make the other person’s role harder.

In dancing, both partners have a role and have to be conditioned and trained to take the right steps at the right timing to seamlessly move around the dance floor. The more smooth and accurate their steps and movements, the more beautiful the dance. The more in tune with each other they are, the more beautiful the dance.

This same process can play out in marriage. Some people talk about marriage as a dance. The more in tune the couple is with each other through communication, teamwork and connection, the more effective the relationship is when it comes to meeting goals and getting things done.

If a couple can start to see their roles as an act of worship, to honor and praise the Lord, then they will take their roles serious. They will also attempt to learn their roles more deeply and work to become very skilled at stepping and moving in the right way. By doing this, together a couple can demonstrate the ultimate act of worship in everything they do.

Final Thoughts

So, you can see how God set up marriage where a couple can dance together and worship him in the process of how they connect, communicate and interact in their relationship. If they dance well by keep their hearts set on Christ and His Word and His commandment to love one another, they will be worshipping God by the way their marriage reflects Him.

The dance is really more of a 3 person dance, with God, a husband and a wife moving in sync together. God leads both in their own prospective roles. May God is like the dance instructor. You need a good choreographer and instructor to help map out the dance of your marriage.

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