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Trust vs. Control: How to Rebuild Trust Without Falling Into the Trap of Control

Attitude, Dishonesty, Marriage, Positive Thinking, Relationships, Trust

Picture of a stick figure trusting another to catch them while another stick figure controls another like a puppet.

Have you ever had your trust broken or has there been a breach of trust between you and a loved one?

What a silly question, right? We all have had our trust broken. When this foundation on which we build all relationships is rocked, it can feel almost impossible to rebuild. You and I don’t realize sometimes how important trust is in our everyday lives until we are smacked in the face with deception, hurt, or uncertainty. Sitting in a chair is a choice of trust. Driving in your car is a risky decision, yet we do it every day at 50 to 70 miles per hour or more. When it comes to relationships, many times we ignore or aren’t aware of how much trust plays a role in how we relate to others and how they relate to us.

How to Rebuild Trust in Marriage after Lying

Dishonesty, Forgivneness, Marriage, Relationships, Resolving Conflict, Trust, Wife

Is it possible to rebuild trust? You may be asking that question. You feel terrible about the mistake of lying to your spouse, but you are not sure how to reverse it. Your stuck between defending yourself and protecting yourself from their anger. Healing takes time and hopelessness wanes in situations like these. The question you are asking is, "Is it possible to make things better?" As a marriage and family therapist, my answer is, "Yes!"

How do I talk to my partner about lying?

Dishonesty, Husband, Marriage, Relationships, Wife

What is it like to be lied to? And how to you deal with a spouse that lies? To confront a spouse who lies, you first need to have a plan of how to talk to your partner about their dishonesty. You may be struggling with the pain of the most recent lie or the first one ever. Yet, you can't just stand by and wait for the next time, or let this go by without trying to understand, right?

Why Do People Lie in Relationships: 8 reasons for dishonesty

Dishonesty, Marriage

Do you ever wonder why people lie in relationships? It seems a mystery at times. You would think that love, kindness and a fear of hurting your spouse or partner would deter dishonesty. Culturally, lying seems to be accepted, but when it happens in a relationship, it can be devastating. Broken trust, decreased affection and other possible effects on your marriage or relationship are results of deceptive behavior. Why would anyone do this?

How to Forgive My Spouse for Lying

Dishonesty, Forgivneness, Marriage

Throughout my years of counseling, I have had many wives and husbands plead to me to give them the answer to how to forgive their spouse. Many times the reason is because they feel betrayed or deeply hurt by dishonesty. As I am sitting here, it occurred to me that it would be helpful to provide this information to others I can't reach through counseling.

9 REASONS FOR GOD’S DESIGN OF MARRIAGE: Marriage represents God’s design for order and priority in life

Grace, Marriage

God's design is perfect. Do you believe that? I do. I don't believe in a God who is imperfect, so his design for things, essentially how he designed things he created, is perfect. You heard in my last post, "God is a God of order." God designed things to be in order.

9 REASONS FOR GOD’S DESIGN OF MARRIAGE: Marriage is God’s original design for procreation

Intimacy, Marriage, Men, Relationships, Wife

Procreation is when a man and a woman create child together. Duh! Why is that important? Because it can't be anything other than a man or a woman! Sounds simple, but our culture and society wants to make marriage more than just one man and one woman.

9 Reasons for God’s Design of Marriage: Holiness, not happiness

Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationships

You may not believe it, but I have struggled with many things in life that most people would not see as loving, kind or upright. I have always wanted to be better than I am. When you struggle with thoughts of not being good enough, you wonder how you could ever have anyone accept you.

9 Reasons for God’s Design of Marriage: Worshiping God through Relationship

Marriage, Men, Relationships, Wife

Do you watch the news all the time? Are you on your phone all day? Do you ignore your kids or spouse because something else is more important? If you were a fly on the wall in many couples' houses today you would probably see all 3 of these things going on. Would you want to be married if you saw just these things? NOT ME!!

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Trust vs. Control: How to Rebuild Trust Without Falling Into the Trap of Control

How to Rebuild Trust in Marriage after Lying

How do I talk to my partner about lying?

Why Do People Lie in Relationships: 8 reasons for dishonesty

How to Forgive My Spouse for Lying

9 REASONS FOR GOD’S DESIGN OF MARRIAGE: Marriage represents God’s design for order and priority in life

9 REASONS FOR GOD’S DESIGN OF MARRIAGE: Marriage is God’s original design for procreation

9 Reasons for God’s Design of Marriage: Holiness, not happiness

9 Reasons for God’s Design of Marriage: Worshiping God through Relationship

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